International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women

1. Warmer

a) The title of the song is “Cherry wine”. What images does it bring to your mind? What kind of song do you expect to hear?

b) Show students the following screencaps from the song and play the first instrumental part of the song (00:00-00:25) and ask them to speculate further. (They might come up with ideas like a date, anniversary…etc.) Ask them for feedback.

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c) Show them the last picture and ask them about the content again. Ask them what might have happened to the girl.

2. First listening and watching

Show your students the video clip:

Ask them to identify the characters and the nature of their relationship. Who is the abuser and who is the victim?

3. Second listening

Listen to the song again and show the lyrics to the students. Ask them to identify the phrases that refer to violence.

Cherry Wine

Her eyes and words are so icy
Oh but she burns
Like rum on a fire
Hot and fast and angry
As she can be
I walk my days on a wire

It looks ugly, but it’s clean
Oh mamma, don’t fuss over me

The way she tells me I’m hers and she is mine
Open hand or closed fist would be fine
The blood is rare and sweet as cherry wine

Calls of guilty thrown at me
All while she stains
The sheets of some other
Thrown at me so powerfully
Just like she throws with the arm of her brother

But I want it, it’s a crime
That she’s not around most of the time

Way she shows me I’m hers and she is mine
Open hand or closed fist would be fine
The blood is rare and sweet as cherry wine

Her fight and fury is fiery
Oh but she loves
Like sleep to the freezing
Sweet and right and merciful
I’m all but washed
In the tide of her breathing

And it’s worth it, it’s divine
I have this some of the time

Way she shows me I’m hers and she is mine
Open hand or closed fist would be fine
The blood is rare and sweet as cherry wine

4. Discussion

a) Are the roles in the song and the clip identical? How would you explain it?

b) In the clip, what might have motivated the man to abuse his girlfriend? Can his reasons be justified? Usually, what are the main reasons for domestic violence? Why do some people abuse their loved ones?

c) What are the different forms of domestic violence?
c/1., Ask your students to brainstorm some forms, then show them the following definition from )

We define domestic violence as a pattern of abusive behavior in any relationship that is used by one partner to gain or maintain power and control over another intimate partner. Domestic violence can be physical, sexual, emotional, economic, or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person. This includes any behaviors that intimidate, manipulate, humiliate, isolate, frighten, terrorize, coerce, threaten, blame, hurt, injure, or wound someone. 

c/2., Match the types of abuse with their definitions. (+ Teach the unknown words)

Sexual Abuse, Economic Abuse, Psychological Abuse, Physical Abuse, Emotional Abuse

(1)________________: Hitting, slapping, shoving, grabbing, pinching, biting, hair pulling, etc are its types. This type of abuse also includes denying a partner medical care or forcing alcohol and/or drug use upon him or her.

(2)________________: Coercing or attempting to coerce any sexual contact or behavior without consent. It includes, but is certainly not limited to, marital rape, attacks on sexual parts of the body, forcing sex after physical violence has occurred, or treating one in a sexually demeaning manner.

(3)_________________: Undermining an individual’s sense of self-worth and/or self-esteem is abusive. This may include, but is not limited to constant criticism, diminishing one’s abilities, name-calling, or damaging one’s relationship with his or her children.

(4)__________________: Is defined as making or attempting to make an individual financially dependent by maintaining total control over financial resources, withholding one’s access to money, or forbidding one’s attendance at school or employment.

(5)_________________: Its elements include – but are not limited to – causing fear by intimidation; threatening physical harm to self, partner, children, or partner’s family or friends; destruction of pets and property; and forcing isolation from family, friends, or school and/or work.

(adapted from:

d) How might the victim feel in an abusive relationship?
d/1. Ask your students to collect some adjectives and justify them.
d/2. Show them this advertisement and teach the new words.


Ask them whether they think this targeted advertisement is effective or not.

e) Show them these awareness raising ads as well and ask them which one they feel the most effective and why. (Ask SS to work in pairs or in groups, then report back what they have agreed on)

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f) Are people raising awareness of domestic abuse in your country? How can it be done? Who should be responsible for it?

g) Here are some statistics. Ask your students to try to guess the correct numbers.

Reveal the numbers after that and ask them to reflect on them.


(answers: a. 30, b. 3 – 4 c. 275 d. 90)

h) In some countries, domestic violence isn’t a crime. What do you think of it? How would you punish those who committed this act of violence?

i) What would you do if someone close to you were a victim of domestic abuse? Would you report it? What can you do if someone you know is in an abusive relationship? How can you help them? (Students can check out this website to collect some ideas:

(Ask for feedback and try to reinforce the idea that there are certain ways in which they CAN help.)


What could we do to stop violence against women?

Tell your students to imagine that they are working for an NGO which aims to help women who are victims of domestic violence. They advocate for ending violence against women: They have to organise a campaign in which they are raising awareness of the different ways of eliminating violence against women. They have to brainstorm and collect some ideas from other sources to be able to present them in front of their community leaders.

Ask the students to collect ideas from different sources and present them in either a poster format or as a sway presentation. ( )

Encourage them to think of what we could do at a societal, at an individual, at a business and at a systems level as well.

Some places where they can find ideas:


This lesson is one of the 4 winning entries for our Special Days Competition 2017. It was created by Rita Divéki. Rita is a temporary lecturer at the Department of Language Pedagogy at Eötvös Loránt University and at Pázmány Péter Catholic University in Budapest and a PhD student in the Language Pedagogy Programme of ELTE. Initially she worked at the International Student Centre at ELTE preparing students from all parts of the globe for their university studies in Hungary. Her main interests include teaching controversial issues, global citizenship education, teaching with pop culture and using mLearning for skills development.

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One Response to International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women

  1. Bill Templer September 26, 2017 at 5:34 pm #

    Great extended lesson plan.

    Violence by the police in the U.S. against young women, in this case a student in Atlanta, is exemplified in this outrageous on-campus killing by a police officer last week at Georgia Tech:

    In this case, the issue of violence against an LGBTQI woman is involved, and the far broader issue of repeated police violence on the street against the minority U.S. population, Black and Latino/a — in which the U.S. President has also embroiled himself by blasting athletes in US football, basketball. Players and teams that have chosen to protest that violence, perceived to be racist, by a gesture of critique (kneeling down) before games on the field when the national anthem is intoned.

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